Yesterday my mom threw me a “baby shower”. When she asked if she could my babe was only 2 months old and the guest list was my step-siblings, my grandma and maybe a few assorted aunts.
I guess I should explain I already had a baby shower; my husband’s aunt threw it for me. I said I didn’t want a shower until after we had the baby, everyone knew that. But all of a sudden she decided that it couldn’t wait. So she e-mailed my hubby for a list of people, which of course I ended up doing. They kept insisting they didn’t need my help and that they got in touch with everyone and everyone was coming. Long story short some people didn’t get invited until 2 or 3 days before the even. None of my friends showed up. I was sad. I should have just thrown a shower for my friends after the baby was born, but I didn’t I was pissed off. Most of them probably wouldn’t have shown up because I live in the suburbs. Also, I was tired, of course.
Well my mom kept saying, maybe weekend x or y, and I’d say “Well let me know”. Last Friday while I was in the middle of getting ready for a BBQ at my house (for mine and my husband’s birthday, nothing says fun like throwing your own party). She calls and brings the baby shower up again (while I am frantically trying to get off the phone). She said how about 22nd or the 29th. I should have said nothing, instead I said “I’m busy on the 29th” and wham the party is on the 22nd. A lot of people didn’t get called until 3 or 4 days before the event and the party was full of my mom’s church and bowling friends. My step-brother was on vacation. At least some of my extended family came out.
Also, it wasn’t really a baby shower, it was just a party. I don’t have anything against going to a party. I probably still would have gone (maybe not though, because hubby hurt his back the day of the party); but I certainly wouldn’t have felt compelled to show up early, and play host while my mom went to pick people up.
So two showers, the first one was pretty good, the second one wasn’t really a shower and I still haven’t seen most of my friends.
New rule: from now on only *I* may throw baby showers for me.